Realize that getting external validation is a high, and internal validation has the chance to purely poppycock and ego stroking. There is of course, a spectrum in the between. Keeping which ones you want and which ones a person uses in check and balance is key to maintaining any sort of order and color to a life. As one grows to notice they enjoy and are more able to get one type of validation, they start favoring it. Humans are fucking biased, don’t bullshit yourself. Being too excited for what others want from you makes you vapid and empty then an active slave to a group or a pathetic minion to a person. Being too excited for only what you like makes you lack experience then miss experience. A ridiculous blindspot becomes overshadowing to your life no matter how great your life seems to yourself. There must be a balance in these validations.
What it comes down to is breaking down perceptions and values then keeping them refreshed. Having a healthy relationship with these means not assuming people are idiots but being critical in thought while also pursuing the best of people and seeing the best in them. Taking content of a message out of the delivery and circumstance is highly difficult and against human nature. Impossible it it is not. Give the words to a figure you admire and your version will only say it with confidence if you can believe it so. Allow your highest visions of people the chance to scrutinize messages then deliver them. What is desired is a good end value of information to evaluate and allow yourself to feast upon. Without this healthy and properly filtered evaluation of your validation, you’re gunna be full of shit or under an unfit influence.
The sexiest thing a person can be, first and foremost, is self-validating. To have this without anyone else’s input is insanity. Make no mistake though, insanity is sexy. Having a realistic version and grasp on the world is sexy too so take these two bullets with a moderate toast. What is most important here is to remember to validate yourself, thoughts and actions. Without allowing what you are about to do and be to feel of merit, than life becomes worthless stumble.
