Take responsibility for your emotions. As the world is very real and affects you, there is too much out there going on for a human to comprehend. We must funnel and pick. This is why our own vision, self-created perspective, matrix of functions and ideas makes up the mind we procured all must chose. This is why attitude is our choice and one we can change and must keep on a swivel. Milton says the mind is its own palace and that it can make a hell out of heaven or a heaven out of hell. This is very true. What we focus on may not seem our choice, but we can decide it is and throw out old boundaries restricting that.
Guilt, loathing, responsibility to others are all fallacies in the way of one’s own happiness as they do not involve you. Resentment does not help anything, fuck no, never. That is guilt and not being happy because others hurt does to you. Commiserating is the therapeutic equivalent of enabling a dope fiend. Hurting yourself does not help someone else. Are you important? Yes and if you only value others then realize that you value them, therefore without you attributing that value there is nothing. It’s only your call that makes its while have worth. Sit on that and look at all you’ve done then all you can do.
Define what happiness means to you. There is some mystical tinge and mental quit involved when one just looks off into the sunset hoping a fucking dragon will fly over and blow their mind. That’s not just fucking stupid but festering. To find happiness, one must realize that all happiness is different from person to person as perspective to perspective. Though we may pull from other sources, many are needed to round off, define, say to no to, celebrate, get sick on, OD from, and understand until we find out own medium formula for what we are looking for and want to have. Fantasizing about pain and horror is the attitude which funnels towards pain. There is no room for something great to be sought after. Making up things which are good takes effort, work, time, thought and is the only way one can be happy. All else is stagnant and entitlement.
Supplying gratitude is essential otherwise there is no reason that a desire will be met, no draw to pull it forward. Thinking it helps, and giving it life begins the same struggle all good ideas have yet with instant results; this is why gratitude is a great way to kick some fire into great ideas. When you show gratitude you illustrate a happiness to yourself subconsciously and the world around you that gives desire and understanding to your happiness being available and worthwhile. This is a must, like give up brushing your teeth before you give this up.
Letting yourself have it is not hard at all or its impossible. Beat yourself up is the other option here, do not bullshit like its OK. People are grown up understanding what is deserved or not by example and regular circumstance then cemented by resentment and insecurity of those around them who ask and lose or who want too much and fail. Abundance is not greed and the world, the whole fucking thing, belongs to everyone. When is understood and accepted that you own the world, all its companies, mountains, forests, and that everyone is your brother, being comfortable asking and feeling happy is natural. The idea that you don’t, that you are an outsider keeps you cold and scared. Trust the world has great things and that they are coming your way; that they are deserved.
