Everyone has fears. Allowing them to control us is crazy and the kind which sneaks up on a person. Developing a sense of who and what you are takes place in your upbringing and how you define or examine it. There is a very normal experience in failing. There is a very damaging experience in trauma and what these two have in common is they require addressing and redirecting after. Doing this creates a knowledge and feeling to how the world and your self should function; not doing this, which is all too common in today’s rushed lifestyles and oversaturated and excessively stimulated society, creates a general lack of sense.
We live in a world where our own fears and mistakes have us stopping ourselves from enjoying one another’s brilliances because they’re new, amazing new turns of consciousness because some fools couldn’t handle it, and exploring the brink of life and reality because we’re unsure as to what lay beyond what we currently know. Human beings develop a sense of the world and it must be double checked for fallacy so study and exposure can be ensured to override it. We get afraid of things or hate things or feel uncomfortable about things, this is a sense which means one can hear and respond to logic they’re emotions and presumptions will not shift because that’s how emotions fucking work. One can remove fear as they have identified it but to truly shift it one must do something bigger. A paradigm shift sounds accurate an eloquent but there is more, one must replace their full sense after they have vanquished it. The best answer is wonder.
Now, as someone who was raised by a traumatized parent assuring me and herself that everyone was somehow out to get us, no matter how absurd it may seem, I understand first hand some crazy which is deep rooted. I have loved a couple brilliant people who were holding damages they couldn’t speak of because it had become so deep rooted that it was part of vision entirely, hiding on themselves the same way one can’t see their own nose. This sort of recognition is mind-bending and frightening in nature because it requires admitting one is flawed inherently and seeking to prove one’s insolence to their own perception by shifting some of the most familiar and intricately of interwoven beliefs. That being said, it isn’t hard once a person gets over themselves and sees humans as flawed.
Allowing yourself the freedom to admit you’re wrong and need improvement creates a step back from owning this pain and defending your own idiocy. Grounding yourself in logical aphorisms and values in the face of these worries clashes and releases a soul. Remember that you are in control of your own actions and that the past only repeats itself because you yourself repeat the behavior; this world is to you what you make it and what you focus on. Criticize other’s stories which are of fancy and failure then put your own walk through rigid examination. Are you really giving yourself a realistic reflection? Probably not, its human to have a confirmation bias, hindsight bias, and self-serving bias to keep yourself balanced all the negativity which is well founded in the world out to get you. In your brains work to keep you moving and upbeat, a fallacy creates a blind eye to one’s own idiocy. All these biases are exactly what they sound like and counteracting them isn’t difficult though I do suggest researching them. The next step is to find higher class of people, rich and successful are pretty easy to critique and identify, then start looking at their habits and clash with your own fears. Having heroes and role models creates direction and strives to work better for one’s self and that is what Im preaching here.
